Saturday, December 31, 2011

The Last day of 2011

As I am sitting here all by  myself in the living room reflecting back on the last year, I  am just amazed that we will be in 2012 very soon.  It has been quite the year I tell ya.  There is a lot of things here in Bellingham that look different, things have been built, other things torn down, round abouts put everywhere, and I mean everywhere.  LOL.  It really was or is different coming home after being gone so long.  I think about the roads there, and how sometimes I wished I had my neck brace on.  They were
B A D..... although Jamaicans do have better round about etiquette. LOL  I am not sure why, since there is no driving school there.  But as I sit here thinking back of all we did in the last year and that I am so thankful. And now we are in our  home ready to start a fresh new year.  Honestly, we don't know what that might look like, other then raising Dontae.  He will have quite a few Dr. Appointments.  I am getting involved with MOPS (mothers of pre-schoolers), Mark starts back to work sometime in January. But as I sit here, I am thinking about the months ahead, and wondering if we can be really really happy knowing that we could be doing so many good things for people in Jamaica.  I can honestly say that coming home has been a culture shock for me.  We have so much, and we expect so much and we take so much.  So I pray that we can adjust to again living in the States.  I pray that I will hear God in 2012 telling me where he wants me and where he will use me.
I pray for all of you that your 2012 will be exactly what you want it to be.

Monday, December 26, 2011

What wonderful Memories

Obviously Matty was taking all the pictures.  Except for the one,  but I can say she was making just as many memories as the rest of us.  God Bless and I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas making a million memories.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

It's Official

As of 9:00am on December19,2011, Dontae Mark Lau is OURS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We went to court, met in the Judges chambers, talked with the Judge and JoAnn from Agape adoption ad with in a few minutes he signed his name and it was all over.  We had JoAnn take a picture of us and the judge, but she was having a hard time taking the picture.  So the Judge had to stop and go help her. LOL  I am not laughing cause it really was not her fault, after getting home and looking at the pics. The camera was on video.  That is why she was having so much trouble.  Which is giving me trouble to put it on here. I have to wait for my lovin Husby.  I just didn't want to wait any longer to tell you the news.
I had someone ask me if I cried.  No I didn't cry and I think its because Dontae has felt like our's since the day we left the hospital in Jamaica and has lived with us forever it seems like.  But to know we are done done DONE.......  that should make me cry.   LOLOLOL  Just kidding.
Merry Christmas

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Sick in the Lau house

I haven't written in a few days because Markie is now sick. Dontae and I are on our second round of antibiotic's and Mark started his first round. 6 weeks of being sick for little man and me, way too long.

We are starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel as far as our house goes. You have to remember that we packed up the entire thing and sold furniture before we left, so trying to go through it all and empty boxes has been a huge hassle
Mark got a job offer to start after the first of the year, this is a huge blessing that we have been praying for. Do I want him to go to work and not be around all day???? NOPE!!!!! Markie is checking into going back to school to be a x-ray tech. It is a 2 year program, so he sent away for his college transcripts. He is excited and I am for him.

The girls are coming over today and we are all going to do our baking, Dontae is going to have a ball. We will make enough so the girls can take goodies home to their home as well.

Our friends and family have been so awesome with clothes and toys for Dontae, thank you so much for all of this. It has made this entire transition a little bit easier.

Ok so I have to leave you with this video. You see Dontae is so good at having an entire conversation and me not being able to understand one word he says, so I started talking back to him the way he talks to me. So at least once a day we have this same conversation. LOLOLOL
Enjoy our little boy.

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Dontae's new pet ,"Kirby".

It's been a strange transition for little Dontae in some regards. He's not quite sure what to make of all the "whitey" faces smiling at him, but I think he enjoys it. (He's still flirting anyway.) He's not sure what to think about all the gifts being bestowed upon him, like toys, clothing, and treats, but it keeps him busy and very entertained. He's trying to get used to our pets, "Angel" the dog and " Andy" and "Nikki", the two cats. But, I think he might have a new, favorite pet of his own, "Kirby". Dontae discovered him yesterday, and it was love at first sight.

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Crazy time to come home

What a crazy time to be back in Bellingham.  There are so many people that are wanting to see us, but then you have Dontae and I being sick and our house a disaster and wanting to decorate for Christmas, not to mention buying some chothes since we really don't have much for cold weather.  LOL  We did finally got our Christmas tree up and decorated last night.  Today the girls are coming over to load up the rest of there stuff, when that is done I think we will be able to make some rhyme or reason of our house.
Our camera broke, and my new one that I have had for way over a year, has been sitting hear waiting for me to get home and start using it, the thing is its at Matty's house.  LOLOL  So I will get pictures up as soon as possible.
BTW people are not knowing how to get a hold of me,  Mark and I cell phone number has stayed the same   Kim 360-815-1874  Mark 360-815-1872 and we shut down our home phone.


Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Been Busy

Dontae's baptism was very nice, our reception back at church was amazing.  I have to say that felt great.  A few of us went to breakfast afterward and then we went to my girls new place for dinner, that Calie and Nate made (which was awesome) and there condo is super nice and adorable of course. :-)
Monday I went to the Dr. and I have Bronchitis, two ear infections, and a sinsus infection.  I waited till after the baptism incase it was bad.   LOLOL  I was not going to miss that for nothing.  
Lets see what else.... Driving freaked me for a minute until I put it in my head that what ever Country you are in, the Drivers body will always be closest to the center line.  And that seemed to work, never had one problem like I did in Florida.  It is cold here, every time I get up from a sitting position I feel like a crippled old Grandma.  Not likeing that at all.
I have loved seeing all the friends and family that I have seen so far and there is a lot more of that to come.  Hopefully we will have the time and energy to put up our Christmas tree soon. 
This morning we watched Dontae go around to his toys and kiss them, Mark and I just looked at each other and said "well he loves his toys" lolol  I think he is adjusting pretty well, except he is waking up every night, standing up facting the wall mostly, so he is confused of where he is at.  We are hoping that will go away and he will always wake up happy like he used too.
Matty and Calie adore the ground he walks on.  Matty came over last evening to pick up some clothes that were already in Calies car LOL, and whisked up Dontae and his diaper bag and went and showed him off.
It is so very quiet right this second, Dontae is sleeping, Mark is working on his truck, My ears are totally plugged but I sure don't hear the the Sea thats for sure.  I kinda hear nothing.  Hmm

Saturday, December 3, 2011

Dontae's Baptism

Sunday December 4th. @ the 9:15 Service. 

11:00 we are going to Denny's and if you would like to join us please do.

Friday, December 2, 2011

Back in Bellingham...

Dontae did fantastic on the plane's.  I was kinda surprised on how well he did. Me on the other hand was a different story.  I have never expierenced ear pain when flying, so when you are sick I highly suggest you don't fly. Or where ear planes. (I couldn't get any in time)
Remember on earlyer posts I was telling you how disgusting I look with my hair?  Well we land in Bellingham just before midnight wednesday night, with Matty and Calie and Nate welcoming us.  And both my girls told me I should of at least tried to comb it. LOLOL  Heck I had it up in a pony tail thingy.  LOLOL  but I think that tells you loud and clear just how wonderful I was looking.  So we load up and head to our house. We had forgotten many many things we have, so that was weird. I also forgot what a nice house we do have.  It is still way to big and we are going to put it up for sale, but it really is beautiful.  I had a hair appointment at 10 in the morning and now its 2:00AM, so to beddy by we went. Dontae slept in his new room in his new crib and new pj's, with a stinking space heater.  He has never worn two pair of pajama's, heck sometimes he just wore a shirt.  And did I say HOW COLD IT IS?????????????  Boy am I happy that I ordered this little tyke some clothes online from Jamaica so he had stuff to wear, because all we brought back with us was what he was wearing a couple blankets and a couple bibs.  We donated all his clothes all his toys. But he slept perfectly all through the night and he felt snug as a bug in a rug in the morning. Then we went off to go meet Shast to do my hair, and who shows up there?  My son Cody, I wasn't expecting that, heck I haven't talked to him since Mothers Day. But that was a wonderful moment I tell ya.  Little while later Calie and Nate come and then when my new hair is all done, Dan and Khari were expecting to see us, so off we went to their house.  When we were here in January, Khari didn't have a baby and either did I.  LOL  But today we both have a baby. Sareal I tell ya. They put our a spread of food, things we probably haven't eaten in a year.  Seriously?  that was very special.  The thing is I didn't get to touch Henry.  There is no way I wanted him to get what I have.  So that was tuff.  Did I say most adorable baby in the world??????    After there we met up with Matty and Cody and we all went to Applebee's for dinner.  I really don't have a clue the last time we went to dinner with all my children.  So much fun, with wonderful memories, thats for sure. 
We had turned off our home phone, no need for it anymore.  Turned off the TV, we haven't watched it in almost a year in a half, I think we won't miss it. But we haven't hooked our cell phones up yet, so Matty lent us her's.  The only thing is, its a black berry and when I went to call my mom after dinner, it says you have to turn off the mute button.  LOLOL  ok that can't be so hard right?  WRONG!  lolol we can't find it anywhere. So what good is this phone to me now?  But I need to use it today to get some things done.  LOLOLOLOL
Driving around yesterday Mark must of turned on the windshield wipers a thousand times, because that is where the blinkers are in Jamaica, we giggled lots over things like that.  One thing that really was an eye opener for Mark, well and me too.  We went to the new starbucks, and as we were leaving there is a begger.  Mark looked at me and said" Wow our beggers are even better dressed then some of people in Jamaica"  When you live in a third world Country and then you come back to your hometown, its sad kinda. The jamaican's love their life, don't get me wrong, but while they are walking everywhere they go, cooking on an open fire in the front yard and bathing there as well, here we are spending and spending and spending and making ourselves look as good as we can and live in mansions.  It just somehow doesn't seem right.
Did I say ITS COLD!!!!! Thank God for my electric blanket.
Dontae is doing good, his hands are cold most of the time, I sure hope he can adjust, and the same with Mark and I. Dontae will be baptised this Sunday at the 9:00 service then we are going out to breakfast, and we invite whomever would like to join us.  We are not in a posistion right now to have everyone over, so this is the next best thing.  Love to all, and we are looking forward to seeing everyone.

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Layta Jamaica....

This is Mark. Ya know, I don't post on here too often, but I thought today might be a good opportunity. Kim tel ls me it's 44 degrees in Seattle. I don't know how little Dontae is going to do in that weather, but I'm worried about Kim and I. We've grown accustomed to the climate and the people and I hope we recieve a warm welcome when we get home.
 We gotten some very nice comments on our way to Orlando today. Some very sweet people thanked us for what we are doing with this boy, and even though I don't feel like we need any kudos, it was nice to see Americans responding positively to what we've done for Dontae. I know God has had a presence in all of this. I've seen it and felt it. So, I hope He continues to touch our live and yours throughout this little boy's life. I'm excited to get back home, back to church and my church family, and spend time with friends, family and my man cave. But, more than anything, I want Dontae to see America... and American's... and what they can offer and what they can be. I love Jamaica, but I am in love with America! A

What a Ride!!!!

Before I start this blog I wanted to say Happy 21st. Birthday to my Calie.  It was yesterday but I couldn't find the words for my blog so I'm going to make a stab at it today.                                                                             Ugh!!!!!! Believe it or not, we are finally getting to come home and this is how I feel.  My stomach is just killing me. Donnaree said to me last night" remember when you came here and how you felt leaving your children, well now you are leaving a new family to go back home"  And that is exactly what it feels like.  Exciting but kind of a sick feeling inside. We ate dinner with Gladys and William on the veranda last night.  We toasted with champagne, not so much toasting that we are going home, but toasting our friendship and to always keep it.  It was kind of a quiet dinner, I didn't want to say much because I new water works would start, and I just didn't want that to happen yet.  Gladys is beyond sad, for the simple fact of her best bud (Dontae) leaving her.  And living here, we didn't have to see each other every second of every day, but to know that each other were there was an amazing feeling.  How do you say so long to some of the best friends?  Willliam is sick, will we ever see him again before he goes to spend eternity with our Father?  Button Bay is for sale, will we ever be back here again? Just to many emotions I tell ya.                                                        From the very beginning we told Donnaree and Marlon that when we left we were going to leave my laptop with them, for there children and so we could keep in touch easier.  So last night we invited them down, and were told that they can't drive the motorcycle after dark, so I don't think I need to tell you how sad I was.  We had just finished dinner and I was saying that we could leave it with Gladys, when just then Markie heard a motorcycle.  Sure enough they came anyway.  And ALL four of them got off that bike.  In the dark!!!!!!!!!!!  Thank You God!!!!!!!  I was so happy and thankful and excited, because it would of  been awful not to see them before we left.  We hung out and just talked and talked and talked.  Mr. Dontae was a ham,  Man that child is going to put me in a early grave.   LOLOLOL  or keep me young.  I will go with the second one.LOL  But ya know Dontae was acting strange all day and into the night,  Gladys said he knows whats going on, and then later that night Donnaree said the same thing.  And I believe them.  I think the same thing.  Right now I am sitting here watching my two guys sleep and snore.  LOL wondering what its going to be like in just a bit, while we are getting ready to leave " Our home away from home"  I had the pleasure to sit on my veranda this morning all by myself, and look at the beautiful sea, the flowers, listening to the birds and the water, watching the lizzards climb the tree in front of me. Just enjoying how beautiful and relaxing and warm it is.  Trying to get these images embedded in my head for ever and ever. Because in a short few hours we will be gone. But God willing, we will back on a visit before they miss us.


Friday, November 25, 2011

The Visa is in Markie's hot little hands...

My DH picked the visa up this morning.   Can you believe it?  I am kinda speechless right now.  LOL (that doesn't happen very often)  Gladys and William went with him to Kingston, because it just happened to be their grandson's birthday, and Gladys called me and said "there has been a problem, you can't get the visa for another year"   LOL  I didn't fall for it because the year part was not believable, now if she would of said a couple weeks I probably would fell for it. What she was really saying was that she is so sad we are leaving and doesn't want us to go (especially Dontae). This is going to be the hardest part leaving them and all the rest of the people we have met along the way, Linda Botkin, Donaree and Marlin, Soloman, Bobbett and so many others. It would take up this entire page if I named them all.  So there ya have it, I need to try and get Dontae all well from his cold before we get on the plane.

The Visa is in Markie's hot little hands...

My DH picked the visa up this morning.   Can you believe it?  I am kinda speechless right now.  LOL (that doesn't happen very often)  Gladys and William went with him to Kingston, because it just happened to be their grandson's birthday, and Gladys called me and said "there has been a problem, you can't get the vi

The Visa is in Markie's hot little hands...

My DH picked the visa up this morning.   Can you believe it?

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Happy Thanksgiving

We wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving.  Take the time today to express everything you are thankful today. Enjoy your meal and the company of family and friends.
We are thankful for everyone that has been with us through the thick and thin during our time in Jamaica.  We couldn't of done it without you.  We are so thankful for our new little guy that is sure to bring joy and love into many of your lives.  Have a blessed day.

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

It went through

So yesterday while we were driving to Kingston, the Embassy called us to see if we got the papers we were waiting for.  We told them yes and that we were driving there right that minute.  I was hoping they would take us in at 4:00 but they said it was to late and to come in at 8:00AM.  I asked them if this was the interview?  They said "what interview"  LOL  a little shocked that they said that, but I said, "the interview to adopt our boy"  He proceeded to tell me that we already had it and were done. LOL  ok!!!! He said only one of us needed to come in the morning and bring the papers. Alrighty then!!!!!!
So DH got up and went in with papers in hand and returned at 8:30 with a note that read...........................
Pick up visa Friday at 11:00AM   HOLY SMOKES BATMAN!!!!!!!!!!  so as long as they actually put it in our hot little hands on Friday then we are coming home.

I really need to thank everyone who understands what we have been doing here over the last year and a half.  We came to do one thing, and God had a different plan.  Our financial situation has been weird to say the least, but with your help we are gonna make it. To some of you our situation is unusual, and maybe if it was you in our situation you would of quit along time ago.  Because you ran out of money, or a place to live or an adoption that just would not work in a quick manner.
In our eyes and in our heart all those obstacles only made us more determined to do God's will. You, that have questioned our every step, I am sorry you don't understand, but for those of you that get it I Thank you from the bottom of my heart.  With your help emotionally, spiritually, encouraging words, that a girls and that a boys, and yes financially you went through this journey right along with us. Some of you we have never met, some of you we met once or twice and some of you stayed with us from day one.
Now with all that said, please go to yesterday's post and listen to the song that I wanted you all to hear.
Its going to be hard coming home and living in a completely different world, its going to be hard in every way I mentioned above, but when you do something for Our God and you know that this is what HE wants then the hard will not feel so hard.  We have a long road ahead of us, especially Dontae, so this blog will continue on.  Some of you in other parts of the world then can keep up on this little tyke.
Now go listen to that song.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Just really listen...

  Click on That's God, it will take you to a you tube video that I want everyone to listen to,

We are heading out

Our car should be here shortly so we can go to the post office (if you can call it a post office) to pick up our papers, then heading off to Kingston.  Hopefully we will be dropping them off today and our interview is in the morning.  Now there is NOTHING that would be stopping us from getting home in a week, unless they decide to delay giving us the Visa.  Believe it or not, that wouldn't surprise me.  We under no circumstances can afford to change our flight again.  We are going today with high hopes, so all your prayers we could use.  Have a beautiful day.

Monday, November 21, 2011

News Flash

We are supposed to be getting the sponsor papers today, so I wrote the Embassy and told them this.  I told them that as soon as they get here we will drive there and hand deliver them. Proceeded to tell them that we can not afford to change our airfare for the 10th. time and that our flight is on the 29th. so we would like to rap this up before Thanksgiving.  Do you want to know what they responded with????????????
I want to remind you that they told us they would get us in immediately once we get the papers.
They said "Come in on DEC.12TH" 
Three more weeks, I don't think so people.  I have written congressman and such and Rick Larson is working right now for me.  He is the only one so far that has responded back.  Something needs to be done about what they have put us through.  And in 2010 Jamaica only adopted out 59 children,  well this must be why.

Saturday, November 19, 2011

11 years and counting

Today is my 11th. Wedding Anniversary. Where does time go? The one thing I do know is I love Mark more today then ever. Our life has been amazing even with all the trials. We love and respect each other very much, we have wonderful children that are all grown up.  And now we have another little one to raise. There is not another person that I would even think about going on all these journeys with other then my Markie.  Our kids have a great father and a great stepfather. I couldn't be more proud of the this man,  Thanks babe for making the last 11 years  such a wonderful ride.  I love you!!!!

BTW Gladys is making turkey for us today....CAN YOU DIG IT????????????  Man am I beyond excited, this would have been two years without. I'm so excited, that I just can't hide it.  Love you Gladys!

Friday, November 18, 2011

Worth every minute of all the garbage we have been through

I was brought back to realizing that being here in Jamaica and having all the trials from the very beginning was for many many reasons, not just the baby orphan boy we get to bring home. But for the children at My Fathers House. I was on Face Book and Anita says hello.  We must of talked for about a half of an hour.  Which is unusual for her and I. The words that she was typing made me just sit here and cry. Mark kept asking me what was wrong. Her words were comforting and loving, sincere, respectful not to mention you could actually here happiness in the way her words came through from the computer. This young lady is truly happy.  Hearing her talk about her "sister" and "mom" melts my heart. She has a home and a family that loves and cherishes her. Mine and Anita's relationship was always a love, hate relationship.  Even though she was always my favorite and I loved her very much.  She just always had a chip on her shoulder, a pretty darn big one.  But that chip is gone, and she actually told me she loved me. I have been waiting for way over a year to hear those words. I didn't know if I ever would. She has been saved, and her words are comforting.  Very strange coming from a 13 year old.  But oh so very awesome. Miss Denise and Garfield are so very lucky to have Anita with them.  You see Anita would still be in a home somewhere if God hadn't led us to My Fathers House. And how at the last minute Miss Denise came on a mission trip with a different church to MFH, and how Anita just loved her and her daughter.  Then when everything was going down at MFH and I didn't have a clue how to find Miss Denise to ask her if she would want to adopt Anita, when out of the blue the phone rang and it was Miss Denise.  Holy Cow the Lord is AMAZING. It took from that day so many months ago to the middle of October to make it happen, but it happened.  PTL.  Sabrina is in the States with her sponsor Ron Lederman, Ritz is with his aunt getting to visit Big John in the States. Sheraki is with his brother, getting the chance to see his family often, which is exactly what he has always wanted. And Felix is with his mom. Travoy is the only one that is back in a home, but his older sister is working on getting him to live with her.  So you see, everything that we have been through with the Koch's, with where to live, how to survive financially, and all this adoption whoop la, God has been in control and helped us make a difference in many childrens lives. And that is why we came to Jamaica. We may not of come and done exactly what we thought we were going to do, but we certainly made a bigger difference in these childrens lives then we ever could of done at My Fathers House.  So there is no room for me to be sad or upset that its taking so long for us to see our own children, or that our savings account is zero, our house payment hasn't been paid in four months or that we had to take from our retirement fund. You see God chose us to take care of all this and follow through to the very end making sure the children are all ok before he will let us go. Now how can I second guess that?  He will take care of us, just like he is taking care of all these children we have grown to love. We just have to BELIEVE!!!!!!!!

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

I am still crying over this

I could not ask for a more perfect Grandson if I hand picked him.  He could of not sent this at a better time.  My heart is filled with so much love I could burst.  Please enjoy my sweetheart as much as Mark and I do.

Back at Button Bay

So our new official Sponsor is my wonderful daughter Matty.  She went to town last night getting all the necessary paperwork together and filled out the forms and just sent it all FED X a little while ago. When we get it it, we send an email to the Embassy again and then wait for them to give us yet another interview.  We take the paperwork to the interview and if it is ok. (which it darn well better be) then we will receive Dontae's visa in two days.  It cost us another 300.00 bucks to change our flight. Ya know I bet some of you are wondering why I booked it the other day when I didn't know for sure.  Well because we were told that everything went favorably. We had already gave them the necessary papers that were missing. And the longer I waiting to our departure date the more expensive the tickets became.  I mean I was so sure I didn't even check about looking into the cost of changing the flights.  Wished I would of done that now.  I even told the airlines our story, do you think they would help?   A nope!!!!!!!  So our date is November 29th.  But if the papers Matty sent sent take 5 days then we are not going to make that flight either.  Dontae is getting baptized on December 4th at the 9:00 service, so we best be there.  I was very sad yesterday, but today am feeling lots better, my sister sent the video "I will survive"  made us smile.  All my friends send me such encouraging words.  I can't tell you how much that fills me up.  Love to you all.  Oh if you saw me now you wouldn't recognize me.  I have very long grey hair.  LOLOLOL  and its not funny!!!!  But when you see me at church on the 4th. Shasta will have already fixed me up.  So there!!!!  Love to you all

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Our day from hell!!!!!!!!!!

It is not good when I wake up with a headache but thats what happened.  The good thing is we didn't need to be at our interview until 1:30 so I had time to try and sleep it off.  Uh nope no such luck! Quick shower and down to the front desk to pick up the mail I sent them to copy off for me. (Remember yesterday?) Mark and Donate go and get the car to save some time why I go pick up the copies.  I ask for them and she says to me Let me check. She comes back and says there is no mail from you, where did you send it and when?  Oh a half hour ago  and I use the email thats on your business card.  She then tells me that the email I used is to the SUPERVISOR......LOL and she is not in. So I re tell my story and now its after 1:00 so I ask her if I can use her computer sitting right over there to get the letters I need.  She proceeds to tell me that they don't get the internet. WHATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!  How can she get emails then right?  Now she is on the phone calling someone, God only knows.  So I say to her at now 1:15 if you don't have internet how in the world can you receive emails?  You know what she did, she looked up at me while still on the phone and said "the INTERNET"  I almost went bolistic.  She now comes over to me and say's it will cost me 2 bucks.  I told her "FINE"  It is now 1:20 my appointment is in 10 minutes I will pay whatever you want me to pay.  She said ok heres the code go over and get on.  I look at her and just about jump over the counter.  Instead of that bad stuff I calmly look at her and say "the computers in the business room blocks my stuff, I need yours"  She gets back on the phone without telling me one thing, I look at the clock 25 after 1.  She gets off the phone looks at me and say's "Tech support will be right down"  All I could do then was cry.  That was all I had left in me, feeling so sick with my head and the stupidity of this hotel, it just got to me.  Ok, tech support shows up at 1:29 she goes over to the business room does a whole bunch of typing and WALA I get my papers.  Now why couldn't I have got that yesterday?  $1.00, so I told her to add it to my room. Mark drops  me off right in front of the Embassy and Dontae and him will meet me inside. I show them my paperwork and he looks at me and says "I don't have a pen, you will have to wait"  as he walked off to ALL the people. I stood there for a minute dug into my purse got a pen walked over to the man and crowed to hand him the paper and pen. He signed it and in I went.  I get in, the man in there informs me they are all at lunch.  Well its out fault we were late. Finally at 3:00 they call us up and tell us the letter from my attorney is not sufficient and they will not except it.  We have to get another sponsor in Bellingham.  I don't think I need to tell you where my heart was, it took everything and I mean everything to try and keep it together. My eyes teared up, but at least I didn't have a major flood.  So it looks like our Thanksgiving will not happen at least for this year.  Once again I need to change our airfare, and don't have a clue what its going to cost because I was so sure about our departure that I didn't even look at the cost. I am numb beyond belief. We have already paid for our room tonight so we are spending money that we shouldn't be now. I don't even know what more to say at this point.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Kingston again.....

Ok, I really just need to tell you all the in's and out's since arriving in Kingston yesterday afternoon.  Because I couldn't even begin to make this stuff up. LOL
We arrive here yesterday late afternoon, as checking in I make sure and ask just to make sure that we have a fridge in our room.  She informs me that we do not. I told her that the reason why we chose this hotel was because it had a fridge for our son. She said that I was going to have to rent it. She had our reservation in her hand, and I asked to look at it. Right there in black and white it gave a list of all the amenities that came with our room, and right there it said fridge.  So I pointed it out to her and she said well yes but it really doesn't and you will have to pay $5.00 a day. (yea I know its not much but its the principle) I told her I was not going to pay to rent a fridge and that they were going to put one in my room for no charge. So she went and talked to the supervisor who gave her the ok to give us a fridge. Like, why do we have to go through all this, nothing seems to be easy here in Jamaica.  Our room on the other hand was worth it, and they did bring the fridge right up. Ok, our interview is in the morning at 9:00AM, and I am actually nervous so nervous that I wake up 5 different times during the night.  We are up quite early and I had to have the girls scan some paperwork for me last night and email it to me, so just in case they ask for it I will have it right?  I am working on that and before you know it, its 7:45 . Oh my goodness we have to be downstairs by 8:15 to run off the email the girls sent me. We make it and I go into the business office to run off the email and I can't get on. So I go up to the desk and the same lady tells me that I have to pay for every 15 mins. OK!!!!!! I proceed to tell her that I need to print off a email of some stuff my girls sent me, and she said that its .55 cents a copy. OK!!!!!!  I said WoW, but I have no choice I need this paperwork.  I get on and try to print it off and NOPE its blocked.  So I go talk to the lady and she comes over and tells me that, well this is a public computer that is why its blocking downloads. And I just paid for this????????  So I just got up to leave and she said you can go up to your room and email it to me at the front desk and then I can print it for you. WHAT?????? I tell her, no we do not have any time for that and I walked out.
We get to the Embassy and we have a 9:00 interview right? Which means we don't have to stand in the mile long line of people. The lady says to me, do you have the appointment letter?  I say no, the lady could not seem to get it to work to send to us.  So she said that then she was going to have to go in and check.  But did she???? Nope, she continued to help the mile long line of people. A security guard was nice enough to pull us out of the sun for Dontae's sake. It  may of been only 9:00 but I bet it was over 85 degrees. The lady keeps helping the people in the line and now I am really nervous, because I am thinking that because we are obviously going to be late because of there mistake that they won't take us or something. So we tell the security guard and she goes and re leaves the lady so she can go call.  They let us right in and we have to put everything through the scanner. You are not allowed to have cell phones any electronics or lighters or food. But we have to bring stuff for Dontae so she makes me drink is juice to prove there isn't an explosive or whatever in it.  And then what does she find in the diaper bag? Dontae's cell phone, there is no battery in it things are broke on it, it is obvious that its a phone that is broken and is Cody's toy,(omgosh I just wrote Cody, I mean Dontae's phone) but she says one of us needs to get rid of it.  OMGOSH our car is a ways away, so I told her to just throw it away, and she says she can't I have to remove it. So I open the door and ask the security guard if he will throw the play phone away, and he tells me he can't touch it. I look around for a garbage and see a bucket and ask him if this is a garbage, he tells me nope.  OMGOSH now what am I going to do. There is no nothing around.  All of a sudden I see a man with a broom and dustpan sweeping the street, so I run over and put the phone in his dust pan.  I turned around and walked off so fast, not to give this man a chance to tell me I couldn't do that. So it has to be 9:45 by now and I am sick sick sick. We do get to go to the front of the line though since we have an interview.  He asks me for the appointment letter. WHAT!!!!!!!!LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL I tell him the same thing I told the lady.  He tells us to go have a seat and when he can get a hold of them, he will let us know. Well 15 mins. went by and I went back into where this man was and ask him if he knows anything yet.  He tells me no, so I tell him how nervous I am because the time is so late and all this run around I was scare they wouldn't take us.  He told me not to worry, as long as we are in this building they will take us.  So we sat in those chairs for over a hour. He finally comes and tells us that we need to go around the corner into this other room and wait for Dontae's name to be called.  :-) ok we are off.  We get there and about a half hour later they call his name. When you think interview, you think sit down with at least one other person and go over a file right?  Not in Jamaica nope, you go up to a window. She asks us if we have filled out a certain form that they emailed to us with the appointment letter.  I tell her no, that the lady couldn't get it to work.  She said thats ok, I will give you one.  Then she asked me if I was prepared to pay for the service charge and the visa.  (DUH LADY!!!!! Do they even know why I we are here?) So while Markie fills out the paperwork, I go over to another window to pay.  We were told a thousand times that the service charge was 74.00 and the visa was 300.00.  Nope, it could never be that easy.  It was a total of $404.00. When I go back to give the lady the receipt, she informs me that she had the form Markie was frantically filling out.  Ok then!!!!! Now she tells us to have a seat until they call Dontae's name.  We sit there and sit there , Dontae is starting to act up because he is soo tired.  Mark gets him to sleep and my head keeps dropping because I didn't get any sleep the night before,not to mention Mark had his head in his hands sleeping as well I find out later. At noon, they call us up to a window.  A WINDOW????? The man asks us how we came to adopt Donae.   I tell him and then he calls another man over and talks to him about our case, we couldn't hear anything but we knew it was about us. Now my stomach is really not doing well. He tells us that he needs a certain paper. (yea the paper I was trying to print) and because he doesn't have that paper then we were going to have to get a sponsor in Bellingham. That means a whole bunch of paperwork needs to be filled out by this person and then it needs to be FED X here.  I said WHAT????? Mark says our flight is on Thursday. I told the guy I have it, I just couldn't get it from the hotel computer. I asked him if they had a computer I could use and he could have it right that second.  Well no, stupid question, but I was reaching for anything at that moment.  He said can you come back at 1:30,  YES of course, we will do anything it takes. I continued to tell him that what I was bringing was in the homestudy paperwork and doesn't he have it?  He told me no.  WHAT AGAIN I AM THINKING!!!!!!! I sometimes wonder if ALL these departments even pass anything on to each other.  I asked the man why we were not told to bring this paperwork. And this is what he said to me......"Everything is very well spelled out to you" I wanted to scream bloody murder.... I wanted to yell "THERE HASN'T BEEN ONE THING IN THIS ENTIRE PROCESS THAT HAS BEEN SPELLED OUT"  but you know he has the power to deny us.  So my lips were sealed. We leave and run back to the hotel, check out time was noon and now is after twelve. We get to the desk and they inform me, that we might not be able to stay another night, they need to run it by a supervisor. LOLOLOL and could we come back by 2:30?  WHAT?????? I tell him that we will be at the Embassy and we can't just leave there. As he is trying to locate a supervisor right then and there, I start looking through all my paperwork to see if there was any chance I had it.  OMGOSHHHHHHHHH I had it the entire time in my folder. (what a idiot I am) but at least we had time to run up to the room eat a peanut butter sandwich and feed Dontae. Back in the car, we get in and walk right up to the window.  YEHAW!!!! I hand him the paper, and he tells me this won't work. WHATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!! He had told me earlier that it would. He knew exactly what I was getting. But  I am in no posistion to argue with him. He tells me if I can get an original we could come back the next day. So Mark says, then will we be able to leave with the Visa? The guy says probably not till Wednesday.  Oh man, that is cutting it close. We leave go back to the hotel, I ask the lady if we can now stay two more nights. She says the supervisor won't be in until after 3:00. WHAT? I tell her the man told us to be here before 2:30. Let me just tell you I stood there for 20 mins while they helped every other Tom, Dick and Harry.  I was so so close to going postal and yell "DO YOU PEOPLE THINK I AM HERE ON VACATION?"  Any hoo, finally we got to the room, and frantically trying to get the paper I need emailed to me before tomorrow.  Of which I am waiting for it right now while I am typing this very very long blog.  The only thing that has been good about this day is this video that Markie took of Dontae while I was working.  And this video is why we are  going through all this garbage.  I hope you enjoy it as much as we did.


Saturday, November 12, 2011

Some pictures!

Hi! This is Mark. Ya know, my computer has been on the fritz for quite some time, and we finally got it fixed a couple weeks ago. I was trying to get myself in the habit of posting pictures here periodically, but I kinda lost the momentum. So...... here goes. Let's start with Dontae from day one 'til now.

Bad burn from oven door!
Ready for church

Bandage from the burn

Naked boy!

Curious (from the front)

Curious (from the back)
Bringing mom a clean diaper. He looks tired.

At Ys Falls

To keep his hands out of his mouth after palate surgery.

Happy boy!
Anita combed his hair down.
Felix, myself and Dontae having breakfast.

One very Long day

First thing I need to tell you is this... about a week and a half ago Dontae picked up a good size brick and dropped it on one of his toes.  I don't think I need to tell you how that went down.  The thing is it has been extremely painful for him. He lost the nail and I swear the tip of his toe went with it.  We have to put meds on it and wrap it up or all Dontae does is cry hysterical. We think because when its not wrapped up he almost always bangs it on something and then the bleeding starts. So night before last we kept it on covered when he went to bed but thought we should cover it for the ride to Kingston. We didn't want him all upset for a three hour drive, not to mention that William and Gladys were with us. So we are driving to Kingston and Gladys is worried that his toe will not heal all wrapped up so she took it off.  He started crying but soon settled down and things in his world were all good again.  We get to the hospital for our appointment and Gladys's daughter is in town so she picks up her parents and Mark and I proceed into the hospital with Dontae. They open at 8 in the morning and its a first serve place. We were able to get right in and fill out the paperwork, then they point us to the chairs where everyone else is as well.  We were not there long when Dontae decides he needed to be the center of attention.  Everyone and I mean everyone were loving on him and reading and playing with him.So then he found this one young lady who he instantly chose as his girlfriend and was flirting up a storm and as she was reading to him Dontae kinda kicked her by accident. It was is toe and the entire tip again was hanging and bleeding..... We got him all fixed up and calmed down and not ten minutes later the Dr. called us in ahead of so many people.  We are sure its because she heard him hysterical.  Dontae weighs 25lbs. and in good health. But then she informs me that he needs 5 shots. OMGOSHHHHHHHHHHH what????? I thought he needed two.  If I would of known this ahead of time we would of went somewhere else cause shots here are going to be expensive.  She sends us off to pay and you will never believe in a zillion years what I had to pay. 300.00 US dollars.  Yep thats right you heard me right.  plus the Dr. visit was 50.00, a 100.00 just to get to Kingston.  So this ended up being one super expensive day. Now I am beginning to think about the 5 shots for Dontae and am worried for our ride home.  He surely is going to be hurting after 5 shots. I don't think I need to tell you how that went over. The Dr. proceed to tell us that his toe is infected and we need oral antibiotic and cream then bandaged. She told us that we need to re dress his toe two times a day and to stay out of the pool. It was the pool that was making it impossible to heal.  She wanted the nurse to dress his toe so we could watch which cost 5.00 for her to put on the dressing lol Come to find out its exactly how nurse Markie was doing it. So 4 hours later we get our paperwork for the Embassy.  Mark and I still haven't had lunch so we head over to a deli which is right next door to a pharmacy and a grocery store. Dontae is fast asleep from his ordeal with the shots and his toe. After this we go and pick up Gladys and William.Now we are heading out for a very very long drive home, its Friday night and every person in Jamaica I swear are deciding to take a drive as well, so traffic was a bear.  I feed Dontae in his car seat and am beginning to get extremely cartsick and Dontae is not happy. I couldn't bear it with the trauma this poor baby had endured.  I took him out of the of his seat. He just needed some love real bad. He fell fast asleep and slept in my arms till we got home. We knew he was going to have a rough night with 5 shots and possible fever, but so far things were going pretty good with him fast asleep.  Did I say I spoke to soon?  The minute we got home Dontae decided that there was NO sleep to be going on, and every single time we got him to sleep and tried to put him in his crib he would start craying hysterical. Now its 12:30am and we are exhausted, so into our bed is a must.  We were able to sleep until 6:00AM. But when he is in the bed you are really not sleeping sleeping, if you know what I mean.
  Now that its morning I feel exhausted and extremely tired and little boy only still wants to be cuddled or held. Now we have all our paperwork from the Dr. and we take it and Dontae into our interview on Monday at 9:OOAM Wow, is it really time to almost come home to Bellingham of which I hear has snow.  Really?!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep reading to stay tuned.
Blessings to all

Thursday, November 10, 2011

We got the call!!!!!!!

For the last couple of days I have had the flu, so been bummed quite a bit, not to mention missing the call yesterday.  Today feeling better, still have a cough which is gross but energy is coming back.  And when I least expected it, the phone call came.  I stood there in shock when the girl that works here came and told me they were on the phone, it actually took me a minute to compute what she said to me.  So I grabbed Dontae and went into the office.  Sure enough, the call we have been waiting for. Our interview appointment is on Monday at 9am.  So we got the Dr. appointment for tomorrow.  Just so happens that its Gladys's grandaughters birthday tomorrow, so we are all going to go together. Boy how things work out sometimes.  I do have to tell you though, as the lady was talking to me on the phone, I was really feeling weird and not knowing why I was feeling this way.  A little later when I was telling Markie about it, he told me "those are mixed emotions, something we don't get very often"  I told him that he was right, that is exactly how I was and am feeling.  We love it here. We have wanted to come home for some time now, but when its right here with in reaching distance kinda makes me feel sick.  So when the day comes when we get on the plane to come home, I can't imagine that it would feel good.  So many people we have met, so many friendships, beautiful country to live in, a simpler way of life.  Yea Mark is right "Mixed Emotions"

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Missed call

Mark called the Embassy lady this morning and found out that we have been favorably adjudicated and should expect a phone call for out interview shortly.  So I emailed them.  Well while we were at the store they called, and our cell phone garbled the message and we can't understand what they said.  So I emailed them again, begging them to either call back or email me.  So far they haven't done it..... :-(

Monday, November 7, 2011

Anita is Home

Yes I said that right.... Anita is finally home, home for the first time in her life. I could not be more happier, to know that she is safe and sound with a family that will love her unconditionally. I just get goose bumps when I think about it.  She has her own room that she picked out the colors. The best part of all is that she wanted to be baptized.  So she is now baptized and happy and loved by a zillion people I hear.  Miss Denise said that people everywhere children and adults from their church all wanting to be a part of this young girls life.  Anita has gone to  youth group, their family has all laid on the bed and watched movies together, with her head in her fathers lap.  OMGOSH that brings tears to my eyes.  That just proves that Anita is feeling the love and taking it in.  Something that I didn't think would happen so quickly.  Praise our Lord for all he has done.


Friday, November 4, 2011

Can you believe I am 50?

I sure can't..... How can I be 50 when I still feel like a kid inside?  I just don't understand it. But I guess that doesn't say much because I also feel skinny and when I walk past a mirror I jump... LOLOL  Ok so, in my mind I am young and skinny, so maybe I will live longer.  LOL Anyhoo, today I don't want to talk about me I want to honor my Markie.  I have been wanting to write about him for quite some time now and it wasn't the right time and today is so there ya have it.
  You know I did have the privilege of helping raise his children, but they were also older, not a baby or a toddler. I don't even know if I have the words to describe the kind of father he is. He is so selfless when it comes to our son.  He works so hard to take care of him and love him and to show him how it is to treat his mommy.  Yes Dontae is young but he copies everything Mark does.  For example, this morning I had a piece of hair hanging in my face, Dontae looked at me and oh so very gently moved it from my face.  Then today while I was eating a bowl of cereal I dripped milk on my chin, Dontae patted me on the shoulder so I would look at him, he then smiled at me reached up and wiped the milk from my chin. A child doesn't just instinctively know how to be so darn polite.  He has learned these things from his father. If he see's garbage laying anywhere he picks it up and puts it in the garbage.  He watches his daden (thats what he calls Mark) and he learns.  Mark takes him swimming almost everyday, he gets up in the night if needed. I couldn't be more proud of the Father he is, and the kind of young man our son will become because of his Father.  I love you Markie, and I am so happy that you and I are on this roller coaster of life together.  Who would of ever thought that at age 50 I would be a mother to a one year old.  LOL Well I also knew that God put me on this earth to be a wife and a mother, and that is all that matters to me.  Love ya Baby!!!!!  Here's to the next how many years we have together.

Thursday, November 3, 2011

An Email

We get an email yesterday late afternoon from the Embassy.  They tell us that they don't have the proper divorce decree for Mark.  They have had all this information since Sept 15th, and they tell us now.   The paper I sent them was the same one we have used for everything else, but they are now saying it won't work. This will make yet another delay.  Now a phone call to the Health department to order one. 31.00 and then 20.00 to get it on Friday to our home in the States.  The girls will then email it to me, and I then will email and fax it both to the Embassy.  But I bet this sets us back. Can we ever get a break here?

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Kingston a success???

You know every single time we leave to go somewhere in Jamaica, I forget that something always happens to mess things up.  And I mean ALWAYS.  But yesterday I know for a fact that it happened for a reason. (I will get to that part of it in little while)  Are rental car gets here just before 9AM and we head towards Kingston.  We stop at Crossroads to get gas and money. The ATM machine is out of money (or so we thought) the guy that we were renting the car from was still with us because we were going to drop him off at a town close by.  So he had to put some gas in the car since we had no money.  We get to the next town and go to an ATM machine and its out of money too????  No way, not possible.  The receipt does not say no funds of course, but doesn't matter we still can't get to our money.  Which is our only way to get money. I need to call the bank, but we are two hours ahead of Washington State. Now what?  We need gas for the car, we need to pay for the rental of the car, eat lunch and probably dinner.  If we wait for the bank in Washington to open we might miss the Embassy.  So I call on my two credit cards to see if there is any money left to charge. ( I know there isn't but I had to try) And uh no, none!!!! I guess we have to wait. Finally 11:00 AM comes and I can call our bank. (need to be at Embassy at 12:30) The lady asks me, "were you aware that your card is being used in Jamaica?" UH yes, I go on to tell her that I set it all up before we left a year and a half ago, and if they look at our account she will see that the only transactions are from Jamaica.  And by doing what she is doing, its costing me alot of time and money.  She still made me go through the last three transactions and tell her yes I bought at that store, or yes I used that ATM machine.  Now all this would of been awesome if I hadn't already set the entire thing up before I left so THIS would never happen. 
We finally get to drive away at almost noon.  There are very very few drive though eating places but we did not have time to go anywhere and eat, so the next town had a Burger King so we drove through and ate on the way.  We get to the embassy at 2:35PM, they close at 3 and I am not sure what time they stop taking customers.  Its also raining SO hard, and we have to walk a bit after we park.  Whew! they let us in. There is also no one left to be seen so we walked right in.  She knows us by name and proceeds to tell us that she will be calling us either this week or the first of next week to give us the appointment date. ( I am screaming inside, yelling, why didn't you just answer one of my phone calls and give me this information, so we didn't have to pay 150.00 bucks for a one day trip.)  But I was very nice and respectful.  So there ya have it, she says we should be home within the next couple of weeks. We once again have some hope, even though last time she never followed through with what she told us, but its still hope.  (I WANT TURKEY DANG IT) LOLOL
  Now here comes the part where we know why everything happened this morning to make us so late.  We walk out of the office and I tell Mark I need to use the bathroom before we go, he said he needs to as well, so I told him to go ahead first and I will change Dontae's diaper.  Ok we get that done and I head off to the bathroom, and I see this lady and young lady standing at a counter talking to someone, I am seeing them from behind, but something about the young lady keeps my attention, so I stand there still looking at this young lady, just then they turn around and start leaving the counter. OMGOSH ANITA!!!!!!!!! and Miss Denise, and oh boy does Anita look slim and trim and beautiful, with a beautiful smile on her face when we see each other.  Somebody hit me!!!!!!!  she was actually smiling at me.  Boy do I miss that girl, who I always said was my favorite.  Anyway, I knew they were coming here today but early.  So we were bummed that we wouldn't get to see them.  The best part is they picked up there visa and are going home today. Anita has a real live family.  Deep down, I wish I would of tried to adopt her,  I am really really going to miss that girl.  She is a firecracker. The reason why they were there late was they got a phone call earlier, and you know why we were late.  So God orchestrated this entire thing. Every second was played out perfectly.  If I would of went to the potty first, we never would of seen them.  The list goes on and on.  So we got to say a proper goodbye with all the hugs all in person.  Now that made all the garbage that happened in the morning all worth it.  We love you Anita, and we are going to miss you bunches. We didn't get to see you hardly at all since we moved away from you, but we still knew you were here in Jamaica, and now your not.  That is going to be hard. Thank you to Miss Denise ad Garfield for making Anita part of your family. So now we will never have to worry about her again.  Love to you all.

Monday, October 31, 2011

Kingston again...

After me being sick with a headache for two days, we decided last night to see if we could rent a car and leave bright and early in the morning to go to the Embassy.  If they won't come to you, you go to them, Right?

Sunday, October 30, 2011


Happy Halloween everyone, I would give just about give anything to have a bag full of Halloween candy right now, might help this incredible migraine that won't go away.  Probably not, probably would make it worse, but I would of been willing to try it out.  
It feels so good to be back at Button Bay just hanging out with William and Gladys.  But if you ask Mark about that statement, he would tell you "hanging out with William and Gladys?  What you talking about girl? You haven't left the room in almost the entire week we have been here"  The sad thing is he is right.  I just don't want to leave this room, (no exercise, or sunlight no anything)  Maybe that is why I have had a migraine since last night. I woke up in the middle of the night last night and just sat out on the veranda praying, praying to make sure that God knows that I haven't been praying out loud but to make sure he knows to listen to me, because I talk to him a zillion times a day in my head.  That even though I know I'm getting so depressed, that there is no way that I will let the devil in to my heart and head.  I prayed for strength and everything else that was bothering me, but I also Thanked him for giving me my son. All this will be worth it one day.  As far as the Embassy goes, nothing..... we have heard nothing.  Oh and Miss Denise and Anita are still her, on Tuesday it will be two weeks since there interview.  That is beyond crazy.
Stick with us friends, prayers are needed more  then ever.

Friday, October 28, 2011

So Tired

We are back at Button Bay, we are extremely happy to be back with Gladys and William.  Gladys sat me down and told me to unpack and try and enjoy myself until something happens with the adoption.  So I am trying to have some fun, other then stay in my room for 24 hours a day.  So maybe tomorrow will be the day.  Dontae decided to wake up at 2AM yesterday morning, and stay awake until after breakfast, which is around 8. Now last night woke up 4AM. I don't mean wake up and rock him back to sleep, I mean wake up and want to Play.
We keep calling and writing the Embassy and they still will not respond. I think we might go back to Kingston and go into the Embassy on the day they take walkins, because we don't know what else to do.
Miss Denise, Garfield and Matthew came for Anita's interview, and of course its a done deal, this was last Tuesday, there airfare was for the following Friday.  You see we have been told that you get your papers back either the same day or the next day.  So on last Friday they would all fly home as a new family, right?  Wrong!   Garfield and Matthew got on that flight, but Miss Denise and Anita are still here...... Have you ever heard of such a thing?  They just needed to be handed the paperwork, which of course went out in courier service the day of the interview.  Something is so wrong here.  Prayers all around please

Monday, October 24, 2011

Baptism postponded

I just hate having to write this, but I have no choice.  The flight that we were supposed to get on at noon tomorrow is not going to happen.  The Embassy messed up on our case and we do not have a interview date. I talked again to the Embassy last friday and got no where, so I asked to talk to the supervisor.  But I was told she would have to call me back, so I asked if it would be that same day, and she told me probably not. So bright and early this morning I call again, but they won't pick up there phone.  I got an email from Jet Blue that wants me to confirm our air for tomorrow, of which I can't do, but I wanted to change the flight.  But NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO  I can't do that because the Embassy does not seem to care what in the world happens to us.  And I am serious!!!!!!!  So Gladys's daughter called a friend who gave her a email for me to write to.  Low and Behold I got a response within minutes.  He promised me that I would get a response one way or another from the Embassy today.  Well guess what? It did not happen, so there ya have it. So just a few minutes ago, I find out we can't change our flight again, so we loose it.  OMGosh, once again we have to buy new airfare.  I am so confused with all this adoption garbage here in Jamaica, almost makes me want to do something about it, so no one else has to go through this.
 Dontae's baptism will be announced.  Maybe my 50th birthday present will be us coming home. (Nov 4th)

Saturday, October 22, 2011


Well now that Pastor Iben said he could marry us the next weekend, what in the world are we going to wear?  I posted before that I already had my dress but that was for an outside wedding in our yard in the summer.  So I really didn't want to go out and buy another dress.  I had just had my 20th class reunion and I bought a beautiful dress for that, except it was black. (do you get married in black?)  So I called Pastor and asked him and he said "Sure you can"  WooHooooo!!!! we are good to go.  Mark had a beautiful black suit, so it was just getting the kids there clothes.  Brandon was going to be Marks best man, Cody was walking me down the isle, and all three girls were going to stand up with me.  We knew we didn't want a big wedding, since we both were already married before, and everyone came and supported us then bearing gifts, so we didn't want to go that route.  But we did invite relatives that wanted to come and church members. We were going to rent a room out at Sehmiamoo for dinner for the immediate family for after the ceremony.  Now on to shopping for the children's clothes.  We did good and found it all. The day of the wedding me and the girls went in and got all our hair done the same with the 3 barrel curling iron.  I can tell you that Alesia who dressed like a boy was not happy.  But what a knock out, not to mention a cute  figure.  Something that you didn't notice with the stage she was going through. So with our hair all done the same, it was just amazing.  I had always wanted to have three girls, and now I was getting something that I always wanted.  And Cody always wanted a brother. I can't tell you how the both of us were so incredibly happy to have this family.  And we were both going to work very hard to make this blended family some how be positive. Now off to the church.

Friday, October 21, 2011

No news is good news? WHATEVER!!!!!!!

I woke up at 2:30AM with a migraine.  At 6:00 Its still going strong.  I go back to sleep to see if it will go away and I can say at 8:30 its going no where.  I knew that I had to call the Embassy right away before she started her day or else I would never get her. So I ask her if she has any news, and what does she say?  She says NO...  I told her that our airfare is for Tuesday. She says I don't know what to tell you other then the judicatory is not looking at our case until next week.   So I ask her when do we make our flight home then?  She tells me, she can not answer that.  I tell her that we can not be in this country without a return flight home.  I am not even sure we can change it AGAIN...  We might have to re buy air all over again.  I told her we donated everything we own away and are living with barely anything since we were told to make our flight on  or around the 25th.  I asked her there has to be someone to talk to that can help us just a bit and she told me her supervisor, so I asked to talk to her, and of course she has to call me back, and she can not tell me when..... Oh did I tell you that she told me this is usually a 60 day process?????
 so of course I am crying my headache is now far worse.    

You know I always thought that if you were in another country and you were in trouble or needed help that all you had to do was get on US Embassy soil.  Well that is a bunch of BULL!!!!!!!!  We have never felt taken care of or felt safe.  What on earth is this world coming too?  I can now say that I am just about completely spent. I really don't know what to do, where to go, out to feel, what emotions to have.  60 days?  we might as well put Dontae in a home and fly home so Mark can go to work,  we can not stay here that long.  And I am not staying here by myself.  Dontae's baptism is all planned, because we were given false hope.  How can they live with there self. US Embassy, My ass!!!!!

Wednesday, October 19, 2011


So Bright and early this morning I call Homeland Security, I asked her name, because I always felt funny not know it.  She informed me that they can not give out there name ever because they can't show personal treatment.  WHAT!!!!!!  (seems like I say what a lot lately) She informed me that most of last week the judicatory lady was out of the office.  WHAT!!!  (she was out the entire week prior) and this is a short week since Monday was a holiday here, so we still don't have a date, she thought she could get back to me the end of this week.  So I said to her "we aren't going to make our flight then are we?" She asked me the date again, and told me that she was going to go over to my file write that date on the front.  That wasn't the best news to wake up to in the morning time.  So then I called the medical Dr. to talk about Dontae's appointment.  In talking to the lady she told me to just bring in the wrong form, since we are flying out on the 25th they will do it for me.  So we get there, fill out the paperwork she calls the Embassy to get our case number, and the no name lady tells her not to do the medical yet since her appointment is not made as of yet. WHATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!  We were so close to get the second to last hurdle out of the way.  I swear I am going to scream bloody murder.  I haven't even told my girls whats going on, because they are sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo excited for us coming home.  And like I said before "it ain't over till the fat lady sings"  I am going to have a positive attitude until the bitter end.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011


Ok so we got back to Whitehouse where we were staying before we took a little side trip off to Negril, spent the rest of the day into the evening going through are stuff we have left to give away.  But keeping enough for us to get through the next week before we come home. Just about done with it all, Linda Botkin (Jesus for Jamaica) is coming over to pick up 2 bins full, three suitcases completely full, 1 highchair, and Dontae's toys.  We are donating it all to JFJ. Then we come back through on our way home we will drop of the pack and play and the rest of our things we are donating. It feels good to be giving again. Then the phone rang, it was USCIS Homeland security. Apparently the email I got telling me to pay 13.00 and make my interview appointment (which is set for thursday) I was not supposed to get that email because that one is for non-immigrant visa's.  WHAT!!!!!!!!!!! She told me not to pay the money they want cause I will loose it since its wrong. Which also means I can't take Dontae to his appointment in the morning for his medical evaluation because I don't have the proper email to print off to take with me. She told me to call her back this afternoon and she will give me an update.  Well I have called two times and just got her answering machine.  I certainly hope she calls me back TODAY!!!!!!!  So since we had the car rented already and our room in Kingston, we decided to come here on faith only, praying that its going to happen this week. The cheapest room we can find here at Shirleys Retreat has raised her prices, so we decided to stay somewhere different so we can have something to do at least.  So here I sit, writing to you while Mark and Dontae are getting cooled off in the pool.  Kingston is always sooooooooooooooooo hot with no breeze, you almost cant stand it.  So I have planned Dontaes baptism, I have ordered him some fall and winter clothes online, so he has something to where when we get home, the girls are getting his room done and painted, the carpets are being shampooed.  So we best be on that flight.
BTW the winner of the present from Jamaica is Kathy Robson....... and the first person to write on here  was Calie Klopp and she gets a little something.  Thank you guys Love to you.

Sunday, October 16, 2011

Our Love Story part five

Boy did me and my kids have some fun with Mark and his kids.  Mark had done a haunted forest for Alesia;s classroom the year before, so we decided to do another one and open it to the public. Months of preperation and work, but we were ALL together working as a team so it was so darn fun.  Cody dressed up as a zombie, Brandon too except he had a chain saw.   LOLOL Alesia was the spider princess, Matty was a lady with the crystal ball and Calie Oh my goodness I can't remember.... Sorry Calie.... LOLOL  she was something in black I do remember that, seems to be she had to have her face covered.  LOL. Marks parents sold tickets and the first year Alesia;s mom and aunt came and were witches, not to mention my family and cousins.  The last year we had 1000 people go through our forest.  The last year was stinking hilarious,  there was this women and her children and when she got to the part where Brandon comes out with the chainsaw,  she screamed so loud that she peed her pants and through her keys into the woods and lost them.  LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL  Now thats when you know it must be good, so we went out with a bang, not to mention we donated the money to the The mission.
So now its November of 2000, and we are getting married the coming summer, so I had bought my dress, and already bought things for the wedding, when one night sitting at Marks house we looked at each other and said "wouldn't of it had been better if we were married already going into the holidays?"  We did not live together, but wanted to spend every minute together especially during the holidays.  So we called Pastor Iben and asked him if we could get married on November 19th.  the same day as our first date.  He said "yes"  so now we are getting married in ONE week.  LOLOL  is that funny????  but a great story to tell the grandkids.  LOL

BTW  Dontae's baptism is Oct. 30th at the 9:15AM service and then we are going out to breakfast if anyone wants to join us.

Friday, October 14, 2011


Mark, Dontae and I decided that if everything goes through this might be our last weekend to go and have some fun, so we decided to come back to where we brought the girls for a long weekend fun and relaxing trip.  Monday is a holiday here "Hero's weekend" so the Embassy will not be open, so whats there to loose right? So we pack up everything we own once again, LOL and come to Negril.  We get into the room and I try to see if we get internet, which of course we do, LOL and low and behold there is an email from the Embassy.  I just about hyperventilated.  LOL not really, but it sounds good!  Any hoo you will never believe what it tells me. It gives me a phone number to call to make my interview appointment for Dontae.  WHHAAATTTT???????? The call got me 8 mins and cost me 13 bucks, 8 mins is all they will give you.  I was very scared since Monday is a holiday and all, but they made the appointment for Oct 20th. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?  Ok thats done, and now I need to make a Dr. appointment for Dontae's medical for before next Thursday.  WHATTTTTTTTTT? There is only five places that do these appointments, and three of them are all out of the same office, and one is in Montego Bay.  So I just picked one by his name.  I talked to the lady she said she could get us in on that Wednesday. But, she said it takes 10 working days to get the paperwork back.  So there is no way it can all happen, she said that the Embassy will keep Dontae's passport until they get the medical. So now my heart is beating fast. And I decided to call the Montego Bay office to see if by some strange reason they could see us tomorrow.  Still wouldn't be ten days but certainly better then next wed. No luck, no appointments till Tuesday, the lady that does it is out of the office.  Ok so now, I have one more office to call, and am praying hard. She says yes she can get us in on Wednesday.  Now for the big question I need to ask her.  "Is there anyway we can pay to expedite the papers?"  She said "No, but we will give them to you when you leave" WWWWWWWWWHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAATTTTTTTTTTTTT!
Oh did I thank her over and over.  By this time Mark and Dontae are down at the beach, so I quickly get my bathing suit on go and get us two pina coladas since its all inclusive here and go down to the beach.  They are already in the water, so I walk out with both drinks and I tell them the news.  With a high five and a cheers, there we stand in the middle of the water looking like the happiest people in the world. A lady came to talk to us, and had to take our picture so she could email us on our happy moment. It was just great being here at this time, Dontae was a Rock Star with everyone and I mean everyone, because sooooooo many people remembered him from the last time we were here, women and men both.  They were all so excited for us I can't even begin to tell you how much fun it was and is.  So because we are so excited we decided to offer a free gift from here Jamaica. I am sorry I can only offer it to people that live in my hometown, but what you need to do is just leave a comment telling us what you liked most about this blog over the last year and a half,and we will decide the winner and let you know on Monday, deadline is this Sunday at midnight our time, so its 10:00pm your time. Hey I might just throw in a couple of other little things, we will just have to see. Lets just say that it will be very cool.  :-)  I wish I could bring home everyone something that has been along with us on this journey.  Couldn't be more happier then we are right now.

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Good Day

Its kinda funny, three days ago Mark said to me "do you realize that Dontae has not been sick one single time since his operation?"  The next day Dontae got sick with a pretty bad cold.  That night we were up ALL night with just a couple hours of sleep.  We were able to take a nap yesterday when he went down, then came last night and the same thing.  We didn't get him to sleep to about 10:00.  From 9 to 10 he had to lay on me to feel better. He woke up again about midnight and then again at 5.  Mark and I are watching ER on DVD from the very first episode, we are now on season 3 and I am not sure what came over us last night but the first time since we have been here in Jamaica, we stayed up until 2AM.  Who does that when you have a baby, and especially a sick baby?   LOLOL Then Dontae wakes up at 5 until 6 and the only way he would go back to sleep is in bed with us. So I had turn and put my head down at there feet so I could try and sleep, but he was up up up at 7:15. Thank Goodness for the best coffee in the world.  hm hm good. Its crazy, how a sick little guy can still be so happy all the time.
We are praying for some sort of an answer today.  The judicatory came back to the office yesterday, so that gives her time to give us an appointment date right?  LOL  Well we will see about that. We are paid at the hotel until tomorrow.  We are trying to decide are next move.  Do we stay here?  Do we move to Kingston? Have a good day,

Saturday, October 8, 2011

The waiting game

Before I start this blog I need to write down that on Sept. 11th.  Grandma Lau's birthday, Dontae's 6th tooth came in, and on Oct 5th. his 7th tooth came in. 
The last time we were at the Embassy, the lady told us that we needed an addendum to our home study, since our home study was over 6 months old. So I emailed Agape Adoptions, well she wrote me back and said that she can not alter the home study and exactly what do I need.  So I called the Embassy back, come to find out the judicatory is out until Tuesday. That this little bump won't effect her answer to us but that we need to get it in. She told me that the adoption agency just needs to re validate there signature and date. So I called and emailed Agape back and told them what she told me.  Funny enough, they have never heard of such a thing.  What a surprise!!!  I swear thats how things have been going this entire time. They think its as weird as I do.  But they are going to do it.  And of course it costs, because they are doing work for this case. So for them to do it and then FED X it here.  125.00 later. So I go to paypal to pay, and pay pal decides my account has been chosen at random to be updated.  I need my routing number from my checking account plus other information before they will let me use my own account.  I call my bank to get the number and I missed them 5 mins. after they close.  So this all has to wait till Monday.  Can't anything go smooth here in Jamaica.  Nope!!!!! Judicatory will be back Tuesday, we are so praying that we will get our date for the interview Tuesday or Wednesday.  With having these dates to go home and then they get cancelled is starting to weigh on me.  If Oct. 25th is not the day for us to come home, I think you might here me at home screaming bloody murder, and then crying.
We got invited to dinner at Linda Botkins house night before last.  She has two interns with her right now, so that was so fun to eat actual food and visit with these women. Mark took Dontae in to get his last pictures taken for his visa yesterday.  But today, we will probably do nothing, kinda like what we have been doing.
 My girls and I talked night before last, and a wonderful couple from our church who trust and love my girls, took it upon themselves to help them get a condo. They were given such a wonderful gift, a beautiful three story town house for an amazing amount of rent.  I am so so proud of my girls.  I told Calie, "see how things work out for you girls when you are such good trustworthy reliable young ladies?"  She said "yes I just can't beleive it"  But I sure can.  I couldn't be more proud of my daughters. They will be moving out on Nov 1st. just a few days after I am home. sniff sniff sniff sniff.  The saving grace to all this is I haven't been living with them for so long now, that this just might not hurt so much.  At least thats what I keep telling myself.  :-) 

Linda Bodtkin asked about our Love story, so I suppose I should do chapter 5 soon.  Have a great weekend everyone.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011


We haven't been on in awhile because my computer crashed, and Marks crashed months ago, but Bunny fixed mine, and is going to fix Marks tonight.  Now we just need to get the internet to be working here instead of hooking up to the hotels for a couple minutes here and there.
As of two days ago, we found out that the judicatory is out of office until next Tuesday.  Thats over a week that our case is just sitting there doing nothing.  Also found out that our home study is over 6 months old, so I had to write Agape Adoptions and ask them to write an addendum to it and then Fed X it to the Embassy.  According to the lady we were talking to, the plan is to try and get us home for me to make Woman of Faith on the 28th. So she told us to book our flight for right around that date.  I asked her what about the 25th?  She said "sounds good"  But bottom line is, she has no control over any of this, so please stay praying for us. 19 days and we could be home.  Hey girls, you best get to painting on Dontae's stuff.   LOLOL

Saturday, October 1, 2011

My Fathers House Orphanage

I was informed yesterday, that the directors Jim and Penie Koch had their Jamaican citizenship taken away from them.  I wonder if it was from abuse and neglect on the children of the home.  I hope now, that all the supporters of Kingdom Builders Ministry will take all this serious.  This NOT something to fool around with, just because you love Jim and Penie.  Yes I understand all the good works they have done, I personally witnessed some of it. But the bottom line is they abuse and neglect children and they should be punished.  God is in control here, so it looks to me like he is doing it his way, nice and slow.  I think that hurts more then quick and fast.  I am praying for you two, that you will come to the realization of your actions and repent before its to late. And let someone come in to My Fathers House and turn it into an amazing orphanage like it once was.  Whitehouse Westmoreland is in dire need of one.  Please consider this.  If you love children like you say you do, then help them.

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Productive Day

Yesterday was a bust, with a migraine, but there wasn't much for us to do with anything as it was.  Two days ago we went to the Embassy to drop off the two papers we needed, and they would not deliver them for us, they told us we had to come back on Thursday, now can you believe that?  He said the first shift might of made and exception but they weren't.  Man!  all I wanted was for Homeland Security to get the papers and have time to look at them before we got there on Thursday, bu no such luck.  But now today, much better day.  We get to the Embassy and there is about 20 people ahead of us and about that many came in after us.  The man that works there pointed at me handed me a number and said "here I remember you from the other day"   WOOOHOOOOOO!  So now we are first.  The lady sitting next to us took a liking to Dontae and asked our story, she leaned forward looked right at Dontae and said "no worries Jesus is in control today"  of which we answered "Yes he is!" ( I think this lady was our angel)  Just then #600 was called, we walked in to a "Good Afternoon Mrs. Lau" That was nice.  She looked at our papers and said perfect. she could NOT understand why the guards would not deliver our papers.  She told us straight out that we would not be flying home on the 4th.  :-(  but deep down we already knew that.  I said to her that I have a convention on the 28th.  (Woman of Faith)  Just then Dontae was fussing, so Mark took him out of the stroller sat him up to the window, and showed her his foot.  He told her our concerns of his toes starting to spread, and he is starting to trip and fall. So then she said I am going to try something, go sit out in the lobby until I call you.  About a hour went by and we were called in, she told me to write a letter about his foot, my convention and then turn it back in to her.  I did that, she told me this judicature runs strictly by the books but that she would read the letter. So OK! I should know something tomorrow.  I may not know the exact date, but I will know if its going to all happen in Oct. LOLOL
Our Angel in the waiting area was right, and it felt so good to be reminded of this from a complete stranger. That is just one of the beauties of Jamaica, everyone openly talks about Christ and their faith, and does NOT have a problem telling you.  I just love the people here.