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Friday, October 22, 2010

A God thing...

Sorry everyone for not writing for a few days.  But  it has been hectic around here, and by the time I get to bed I am tired.  So back to "A God thing"  Mr. Mark and I came here to Jamaica to take care of the kids at My Fathers house.  But in the process of doing this, we came to love Dontae.  As I said before,  Dontae has a cleft pallet and lip, not to mention a very rare condition sometimes called lobster claw syndrome.  His mother abandoned him when he was born.  And God called Mark and I to see if we could adopt him.  If he would of stayed here he would of been institutionalized for his entire life.  He probably would not of been able to get his pallet done.  And without doing that, he would not of talked properly.  So they did his lip.  Now here is where all of you could come in handy.  We are looking for a Dr. to provide Dontae with the surgery for his pallet, that way we can get him a medical visa, fly him home and he could be good as new.  Please if you know of any Dr. that would like to offer his services, please email me ASAP.  With everything I have read, the best time to do the pallet is when they turn eight months old. Dontae is 7 1/2 months now.  Christmas time would be an awesome time. But I know that is pushin it.
Well what do you think? Dontae is precious and smart and cuter then a bugs ear.


Now feeding him is another story, when you have a cleft pallet, when he is drinking his bottle, it can just go up his nasal passages.  It is like trying to drink out of a straw that has a hole in it.  One hour to take 2 oz.  So been on the internet to ask what to do.  The doctors say to get a certain nipple for a cleft pallet.  But I am in Jamaica so not possible.  So this website told us how to make a regular nipple work.  You can't beat that...Please enjoy the pictures of Dontae!!! We have prayed long and hard about starting another family at our age and we feel meeting Dontae was a God thing!!!!!!  And that God chose us to be his parents.

9 comments:

Duane Neufeld said...

Congratulations! This truly is a God thing that He had planned well before your arrival in Jamaica. You are all in our prayers.

Calie said...

I got pretty kewl parents!
love you guys! miss you!! xoxo

Ashley Knowlton said...

I am so happy for you two, what a blessing for both you and Dantae! Praying you are able to find a doctor for the surgery.

Your Daughter Calie ... No longer the baby of the family ;) said...

In these pictures you guys look soooo happy!!
Makes me happy! :D

Shasta said...

That is so awesome :)

Missy Bartel said...

I use the bottles you need at my office. I just lent a family my last one but will order more. What's the best way to get it to you? Also, have you checked into Operation Smile? They are a team of dr, dentists, speech therapists, nurses, etc that go to other countries to do the surgeries for kiddos with cleft lip and palate. I would then check into Children's in Seattle and Portland and see if any of the docs on the craniofacial team are willing. You may be able to read their background/history online. Children's are teaching hospitals so they usually have a bit more "wiggle" room with costs. I'm not sure about St. Judes hospital for children. Everything is free for them, but may just be cancer kids. I'll try to check.
Blessings to you and let me know of any problems you run into. I work with feeding issues with the babes that come to my office and will try to help anyway I can.

Missy

Mark,Kim Lau said...

Wow Missy, thanks for all the information. Don't worry about the bottles, I think we have fixed the nipples to work for us. Today was a good day. What is now worrying me is when I feed him for instance rice cereal it comes out his nose. I feel so bad for him.

Anonymous said...

Put the rice cereal in a bottle with a bigger hole. He knows how to do that with his thumb, so should work.
He is so cute.
Love you, Mom

Missy Bartel said...

You can also put the food inside his cheeks instead of on his tongue. Babies either push up to initiate the swallow (that's when it comes out his nose) or they suck, like they are familiar with. If it's in his cheek, he will suck and then swallow. As he gets more used to food in his mouth, he should learn to move his tongue to where the food is to help move it back in his mouth, still going to the sides of the mouth rather than the roof (at least until he gets his surgery). You can email me at missy@connectionsslp.com with other issues. I love to help!